Giving ourselves permission to just feel what we feel is so important to long term health and well-being. It can be one of the most liberating and freeing things we can do to let ourselves just feel what we are feeling.
Acknowledging and feeling our feelings can be one of the kindest most self-loving things we can do. To accept all of our feelings even the painful ones. I know it sounds counter intuitive but allowing ourselves to feel whatever it is we are feeling, the Painful, hurt, sad, grief, the loss, whatever it is, it allows that part of us that we locked away when we judged the experience of what ever occurred , it becomes locked up within us and unable to be processed and as a result we carry the suppressed energy of those experiences and feelings forward with us into the future where they colour the lens of what we are viewing in front of us in life, affecting how we see things and they become the unconscious triggers of things from the past.
When we judge feelings and experience, it becomes locked up inside us and does not move or flow. Life can tend to feel like flow is not happening as a result of the judgements we have made..
When we let ourselves acknowledge and feel whatever is going on inside us it starts to open up the areas which have been locked down. We can then bring acceptance and kindness to those parts of us from the past, allowing the feelings to flow again. As we bring frequencies more akin to Love into these feeling experiecnes, like kindness, acceptance, compassion and understanding, they begin to open up, to flow and heal. This allows for those experiences to be acknowledged and heard and with the love getting into them they can begin the process of healing.
Healing occurs when we bring Love to those parts of us that we previously considered as unlovable. It’s like welcoming parts of us that we had locked away, back home again. We stop abandoning and rejecting the hurt wounded bits inside us and low and behold those parts in us stop feeling abandoned and rejected . They can be welcomed home, inside as part of the wholeness for healing to occur.
There are all sorts of reasons, many unconscious, for not allowing ourselves to just feel as we feel. “It was too painful” , “I will not cope “, or it was not acceptable or encourage or actively discouraged in the environments we grew up in; Where some feelings might have been acceptable and others not.
In our society there is his background belief that many people carry that if I am feeling the hurt , sad, painful end of the feeling spectrum that something must be wrong and if I am feeling the happy blissful joyful end of the spectrum that life is going somehow right.
The thing is we are human and that by being human we are going to feel the whole range of human feelings just as part of being alive. When we judge them as bad or good we lock them up inside us and in Judging them as bad or good we can end up moving away from the “ bad” set of feelings trying to chase the other “ good” feelings, all the while never really being fully present with how we actually are. We put meaning on feelings which are not true.
Instead of judging a feeling as good or bad, ok or not ok, if we let go of the meanings and judgement of the feelings and just allow ourselves to feel as we feel and be in acceptance of the feelings, we find we can be ok within ourselves regardless of what the feelings are. The problem is not with the feeling tself , o
When we stop Judging our feelings, we don’t need to feel a particular way to be ok.
We can be ok, what ever we are feeling . Being ok is not dependent of having to have a particular feeling. We start to experience that we are more than just our feelings. Our feelings do not determine who we are or how we are. They are just experience and feedback on life. It is just experience of life passing through and if we don’t judge or block it, avoid or deny it, if we just allow and accept the feelings they begin to flow and pass through us. The key is not judging our feelings, They are not good or bad, just experience.
Its as if in learning to accept them and be ok with them, they pass through and then in another moment we experience a different feeling. Feelings flow as feedback on our experience of life passing through. Feelings are part of the amazing richness of life. In bringing Love and acceptance to all of our feelings helps us to Love what was previously unlovable within us.
We become bigger in our capacity to Love more of what was previously unlovable and our experience of life changes in that greater amount of love we have been able to internally create for ourselves.
